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pistola says:
February 22, 2011 at 11:58 pm
The truth lies somewhere in between for sure. What I don’t believe is that we can know what the mix is in the way we think.
I’m thinking of a friend of mine who is finally engaged to a sweet woman after having tried for about 11 years to find the right person (at least–that’s only how long I’ve known him). During that time, he’s been engaged twice, cheated on multiple times, been in one LTR after another. He’s sacrificed so much in order to try to get his relationships to work that he’s in his late 30s and still hasn’t completed an undergraduate degree. This friend has tried harder than anyone I have ever known to meet and marry his “One,” and it’s taken him 11 years just that I’ve seen! And they almost didn’t work out, and wouldn’t have if she hadn’t agreed for his sake to deal with her substance abuse issues.
People could look at my friend and praise him for making the “right choices” by sticking with it and keeping dating. But I also know what he’s sacrificed. I’m not that much older than he is. I don’t have a “One” but I have a master’s degree and two other professional trainings under my belt. What he put into looking for love, I put into my education. I wouldn’t tell my friend he’s made bad choices but a lot of people would. He wouldn’t tell me I’ve made bad choices but a lot of people would.
Life’s only so long and not everything is gonna happen for everyone.